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I get asked a lot about how to create age appropriate style. It is a common style concern among many of my clients, no matter what their age. I get so many questions about this that I recently held a Stylish Inner Circle class and a live seminar at Mary Mojo Boutique on the topic.

captureDuring the seminar I put together different outfits and asked participants how old they thought each mannequin would be based on their wardrobe. It was astounding to hear the age ranges they provided.  Everyone had a completely different idea of how old the mannequin was, with varying ideas on why she was that particular age.

In this picture, the mannequin in the dress and cardigan was given an age that ranged from 28-60. It shows you that what is considered age appropriate is relative to your perspective.

So, how does that help you get dressed feeling confident and age appropriate each morning? When you are worried about dressing in an age appropriate way, consider thinking about relevance.

Instead of asking yourself “Do I feel age appropriate?” Ask yourself “Do I feel relevant?”

This means you take into consideration the way people you find stylish are dressed, and what you want to look like as the woman you are today.

To Create Relevant Style:

  1. Use your style to help tell the rest of the world who you are and what you have to say—as the woman you are right now.
  2. Be willing to frequently reassess the clothing that you wear. Recognize that style, like you, constantly evolves.
  3. Remember that there are many different ways to wear something. Don’t typecast a piece of clothing as too young or too old until you try it on and experiment with how it can work for your current style.
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If you are looking for a good book to help you evolve your style, I recently read What to Wear for the Rest of Your Life: Ageless Secrets of Style.  This is a new book by Kim Johnson Gross and I thought it contained great advice that could help you discover how to achieve the style you desire. I thought it applied to all ages. Check it out and let me know your thoughts!

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Last week my Stylish Inner Circle members enjoyed a great class taught by life balance expert and founder of YuDu Concierge, Sarah Hays. Sarah shared great tips on how to take the overwhelm out of a forever growing to do list. I really loved Sarah’s perspective on how to have life balance and it made me realize that whether you’re figuring out how to have better time management, or better style, the key to success is the same—you have to think outside the box.

Thinking outside the box doesn’t involve doing something that feels completely foreign or crazy. It’s simply changing the way you typically do it. One of my favorite quotes comes from marketing and mindset coach, David Neagle. He says, “To change your life you have to change your life.” Duh! Yet it’s sometimes the most challenging thing to do.

The first step starts by being willing to think outside the box, thus resulting in change. For instance, Sarah’s talk made me realize that my time management is hindered by feeling overwhelmed over where to start taking action on my to-do list. She suggested prioritizing the list. Give each item on the list a letter such as A, B, or C according to its importance. Easy solution, but it was one that hadn’t occurred to me. Prioritizing my list requires me to think outside the box.

It’s the same with your style. If you aren’t finding happiness with the way you look—start thinking outside the box!

Think Outside the Box When It Comes to Your Style

  1. Add an accessory. A bold necklace or funky shoe can completely change the look and feel of an outfit.
  2. Try on a color you’ve never worn. Sticking with the same colors can leave you feeling drab and bored. Remember that a color comes in many different shades and you may find the perfect one for you that is totally unexpected.
  3. Don’t settle. If you need comfort and style, don’t quit until you have found both. Settling keeps you in the same old unhappy style box.
  4. Get unbiased advice. Ask the opinion of an honest friend or a trusted stylist. The benefit of a fresh eye from a new perspective is often priceless.
  5. Do something different. Shop different stores. Try something on you ordinarily would not. Hang your black shirt back up in your closet and put on one with color that you hardly ever wear.

To borrow from David Neagle, just remember that to change your style, you have to change your style.

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Mark your calendar for July’s Stylish Inner Circle calls. These are great topics you won’t want to miss.

Survive Summer in Style
Wednesday, July 14th at 12 pm ET

When temperatures rise it can be difficult to feel both stylish and comfortable in the heat. Discover how to survive summer in style on our next Stylish Inner Circle call.

On this call you will discover…

What fabrics can help you stay cool while looking great.
What one item your summer wardrobe cannot be without.
Why beating the heat starts from the inside out.
How to stay cool without heading straight to your boring t-shirts and shorts.

 

This call will run approximately 30 minutes.

Stylish Inner Circle Open Q&A
Tuesday, July 27th at 12 pm ET

 

This is your opportunity to get all of your specific style questions answered and learn from other Stylish Inner Circle members. You will be able to ask questions on the LIVE call. Or, simply email your question(s) to me at lee@charlestonstyleconcierge.com. Remember, there are no silly questions and this call is meant to be a fun and informative learning experience.

This call will run approximately 30 minutes.

*All calls are recorded for your listening convenience.

This call is exclusively for Stylish Inner Circle Members. Not a member yet? It’s simple and easy to join. You can join these fun and exciting calls with a trial membership for only $5.

Join now to access this call with a two-month trial membership for only $5.

For more information about the Stylish Inner Circle click here.

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shoesCloset overwhelm is a common style challenge. You have all this stuff that you know you don’t wear but you just aren’t sure what to do with it. It’s such a common problem that statistics show you only wear 20% of what hangs in your closet. What if you could have 80% more room for items you really loved to wear?

It’s easy to do. First, let go of the guilt you feel about getting rid of things that no longer work for you or the style you want to have. You’re not wearing them anyway! Second, figure out the best way to get rid of them. Below are three options for you to consider and they all come with financial reward.

Consign your clothes

I LOVE the consignment store. I regularly edit my closet and anything I’m not completely in love with goes to the consignment store. I then take the money I make and buy new items I love to wear. Sometimes I even score unique finds while I’m there.

What You Should Consign: Clothing and accessories that are in like new condition and in current fashion. If you’re not sure if your items adhere to these rules simply take them to your consignment store and ask.

How It Works: Many stores require clothing to be brought in on hangers and at certain times of the day. They will look through your items and decide what they think they can sell. You typically receive around 40% (check with your store for their policy) of whatever amount your item sells for. Be sure to call your local consignment store to find out their specific policies.

The Benefit: It’s super easy! All you have to do is drop off your clothes and remember to come back in a couple of months to pick up your check!

Become an Ebay Seller

Ebay is a great way to recoup money you’ve spent on an item that no longer works for you. It can also be fun to watch others get wrapped up in a bidding war over something you are selling.

What You Should Sell: Clothing and accessories from designers or sought after brands. For best results your item should be in a like new condition. Before you decide to list something on Ebay you have to do a little research. Search for items similar to yours. Do you find any? Do you find an overwhelming amount that have no bids? Are they at a price that you feel is worth the effort to list them on Ebay? These should all be considerations when deciding whether or not Ebay is the best option for you.

How It Works: Once you list your item on Ebay others can bid on it starting from the price you set. Remember that the fun of Ebay is bidding against others so be sure to set a good starting price. Ebay charges you a fee to list your item. You can list your item yourself or take it to a local Ebay store that will do it for you.

The Benefit: If you list an item yourself on Ebay, this is typically the best way to recoup the most money from an item you want to sell.

Donate to Charity or Goodwill

It’s a great feeling to know that clothing which no longer works for you can help to serve another individual. There are many non-profit organizations that can benefit from items you are looking to let move on.

What You Should Donate: If you choose to donate to a charity with a specific focus such as Dress for Success, you should contact them to find out about their specific needs. If you are donating to your local Goodwill store, donate clothing in ANY condition. They sell items that will be profitable in their stores. The rest is sold as bulk salvage and recycled into other things. Even if you have clothing that is ripped or stained, be sure to donate it to Goodwill instead of throwing it away.

How It Works: Find your local donation point and drop off your items. You can also schedule a pick up with some organizations. Don’t forget your donation receipt!

The Benefit: This is a very easy way to get rid of items you no longer need and you can receive a tax deduction.

For specific help on what in your closet you should keep or purge consider a

closet edit. A closet edit can help you discover why your closet is full of items you’re just not excited to wear. Contact the Charleston Style Concierge and discover how a closet edit can benefit you.

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One of the secrets to getting dressed quickly is being disciplined about how you maintain your closet. This secret step to quick and easy style isn’t hard, it just takes a little time—one thing it is hard to find enough of!

If you could use more hours in your day for shopping, hanging out with friends, or to just spend some time to yourself you won’t want to miss the next Stylish Inner Circle class.

“Stress Be Gone: Time Management Secrets for Your Life Balance”

Tuesday June 29th at 12 pm ET

Join me as I interview Sarah Hays, Founder of Yudu Concierge, for simple and effective time management strategies sure to help you take the stress out of all you have to do.

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This call is exclusively for Stylish Inner Circle Members. Not a member yet? It’s simple and easy to join. You can join this fun and exciting call with a trial membership for only $5.

Join now to access this call with a two-month trial membership for only $5.

For more information on the Stylish Inner Circle click here.

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Do you want to learn how to look chic and polished at any age?

Do you have 30 minutes? 

Join me for tomorrow’s Stylish Inner Circle Class

“Get Chic and Polished Style at Any Age.”

Tuesday, June 15th

12-12:30  pm Eastern

Join me tomorrow and learn the secrets to looking chic and polished. During this exciting thirty minute class you will discover: 

  • What you should and shouldn’t wear at a certain age. 
  • How to create timeless personal style.
  • Easy ways to feel modern no matter what your age.

If you can’t make the live call, don’t worry, it will be recorded.

This call is only for Stylish Inner Circle members. Not a member yet? Join now for only $5 and I’ll see you on the call tomorrow.

Join now to access this call with a two-month trial membership for only $5.

For more information on the Stylish Inner Circle click here.

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Have you recently walked into your closet and emerged bored to tears from your lack of exciting outfit options? It happens! Boredom causes daily wardrobe frustration for many women. However, you can banish your wardrobe blues with a few style tricks sure to put a smile back on your face.

 

Add a Bold Necklace

 

Your jewelry box is the key to quickly solving your wardrobe blues. Breathe life into an old standby just by adding a necklace. Do you have classic pearls? Pair them with a t-shirt and jeans for a modern twist. Are you bored with your cotton summer dress? Jazz it up by layering a short and a long necklace. Are you afraid costume jewelry looks cheap? Stop worrying and embrace it! There are many great costume pieces that look great and allow you to experiment with bold color or styling without making a large investment. Be bold and add a great necklace the next time you feel bored.

 

Change Up Your Shoes

 

A fun shoe can take an outfit from blah to hoorah! Instead of throwing on your tired flip flops that live right beside the door, head to your closet and change up your shoes. Are you saving your favorite silver shoes for a special occasion? Wear them to dinner with a dressy jean and fun top. Do you have sandals that you only wear with a matching summer dress?  Wear them with a neutral skirt for a fun pop of color. Retire your flip flops and entertain yourself, and your feet, with a great shoe.

 

Branch Out Where You Shop

 

A simple change to your shopping routine can greatly benefit your wardrobe. Do you find yourself going to the same stores over and over again to buy the same old thing? Branch out! Try a new boutique. You never know what you will find. Ask a stylish friend where she shops and go there. If you’ve found a store that works well for you, be disciplined and buy only buying items that help you create new and exciting outfits. You will be surprised how branching out, even a little bit, can help you feel less bored with your style.

 

Schedule a Time to Play Dress Up in Your Own Closet

 

Most of us get dressed in a hurry leaving no time to find new and different ways to wear things. Do you feel like you always wear the same things the same way? It’s an easy trap to fall into, and plunges you deep into a boredom pit! Fix it by scheduling a time to play dress up in your closet. Make a goal of finding five new outfits—that you’ve never worn—from what you already own. With a little time and an optimistic eye, it can be done!

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Have you ever spent time searching through an unorganized mess in your purse? I have!

I wanted to share with you the information about an organizational product I use called the Joey Junior. I came across these in InStyle Magazine and thought it was worth trying. I love mine because it makes it not only makes it easy to find things, but it is also easy to  quickly change your bag. Everything is in one place!

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You can check it out by visiting their website at http://www.joeyjunior.com.

Here’s to your style!

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Written by Stephanie Deitzer

Are you familiar with Roger Daltry, the band The Who, and the opening song to CSI Miami, “Who Are You?” It is a catchy tune and the opening line is “Who are you… who-who, who-who?” Well, it is playing in my head as I write. It is also what I’ll ask you to consider as you approach your wardrobe, your overall presentation, and how you want the world to experience you. What three words would you use to describe your personality and values, and do you actually project them day-to-day? Who are you and who does the world see?

Each of us is capable of being appropriate in our life roles without losing ourselves in the process. Even those of us who need a little coaching can shine through.

I was recently speaking with a client and she was surprised by my pre-consult questionnaire and how many questions I was asking about her before our initial session: her three descriptive words, who her style icons are, how does she describe her own style, what a week in her life looked like, etc. I explained that the better I knew her, the more I could help her meet her objectives. Another woman shared with me that she didn’t want to dress like I do and was shocked when I told her I didn’t want her to - that she should be herself, but be her best self. The first step in being your best self is in figuring out who you are and having that consistent thread evident through your attire, behavior, and communication.

With Spring fashion arriving in the stores, you’re most likely thinking of a closet refresh. Before you actually start the process, (it’s okay to start humming some Roger Daltry here…), think about “Who Are You?” and what makes you unique. Do you have beautiful/handsome broad shoulders, long legs, big green eyes? Think about your body shape, hair style, and other characteristics that make you special. Remember, sometimes things you may initially think are flaws can actually be fabulous - it’s all in how you approach them. Embrace yourself and have fun with this!

Once you have given your “uniqueness” some thought, consider how you can make the most of what you have and use these characteristics to your advantage. For example, someone with a tiny waist might buy brightly colored wide belts to accentuate her waist - or - a custom-made silver belt buckle to draw attention to his; a woman with bright blue eyes may make turquoise her signature color and make it prominent throughout her clothing and accessories; and from a personal perspective, although my big broad shoulders look awful in most of this season’s ruffled tops, they rock a halter or V neckline, so I shop for halters and V-necks. Some people have a flair with scarves or jewelry or other signature accessories. There are so many ways to shine through.

The trick is to do your homework before jumping into the latest trends. Audit your closet to see what will work and stay for this year, and edit everything else out. Make a list of what you need in order to flesh out your wardrobe for the season, and then hit the stores. Consider each purchase, and make sure it conveys your “personality and values” words and that works for your body type, coloring, and other signature characteristics. This may sound like a lot, but if you take it in bite-sized pieces and you master these key skills, you’ll be genuine from head to toe and able to easily answer the ever-pressing question “Who are You?” without saying a single word!

Learn more from Stephanie on the next Stylish Inner Circle call. She will help you head to work looking professional and in style during the teleclass, “Business Casual vs. Business Chaos.” Join us for only $5. Click here to learn more.

Stephanie Deitzer, founder of Style at Work, believes that embracing one’s individual look can empower them in business and other life roles, and that finding this look should not only be enjoyable, it should be exhilarating. She helps clients with practical approaches they will use every day  style at work.

Stephanie is VP of Education and VP of Membership for the New England Chapter of AICI, the Association of Image Consultants International.

Stephanie Deitzer, AICI | Image and Wardrobe Consultant | www.styleatwork.biz | © 2010

 

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